Confidence vs. Competence: Why the Distinction Matters in Mental Health
One thing I keep seeing on social media is how quickly we deem someone an "expert" because they seemingly know what they're talking about. Often, it’s not that we truly understand the depth of their knowledge, but we conflate their confidence with competence. Social media gives everyone a microphone, and even if someone isn’t actually qualified to discuss a specific topic, their confidence can make them stand out and appear credible.
The Confidence-Competence Illusion
Confidence and competence are closely related but distinct concepts. Confidence refers to the belief in one’s abilities or the self-assurance to take action, regardless of the actual level of skill or knowledge. It is an internal state that can make a person appear poised and convincing, even when their expertise may be limited. On the other hand, competence is the actual ability, skill, or knowledge to effectively perform a task or understand a subject.
Competence is rooted in experience, training, and mastery, whereas confidence is more about perception and belief.
While confidence can inspire action and motivate others, true competence ensures the ability to follow through with accuracy and results. Balancing these two qualities is key: confidence without competence can lead to mistakes, while competence without confidence may hinder effective communication or self-advocacy.
Why The Confusion?
Confidence is often mistaken for competence because it’s persuasive. A confident speaker can make their message seem authoritative, even when it’s not grounded in any expertise or evidence. This illusion becomes problematic when we uncritically accept advice or information—especially when it comes to mental health. Tips that are presented as universal truths may not be applicable to your unique situation, yet the delivery can make them seem universally valid.
Why Discernment Is Crucial
We live in a world where access to information is instantaneous, but the quality of that information varies wildly. In the realm of mental health, the stakes are particularly high. Applying general tips or advice without considering their relevance to your specific circumstances can lead to frustration, harm, or further confusion.
Being discerning means asking critical questions:
What are this person’s qualifications to speak on this topic?
Is the advice evidence-based, or does it rely solely on personal anecdotes?
How might this information apply to my unique needs and circumstances?
When we take the time to mindfully evaluate the sources of information we consume, we empower ourselves to make choices that are better aligned with our well-being.
The Dangers of Social Media “Experts”
Social media often blurs the lines between entertainment and expertise. A creator may be endorsed by celebrities or have millions of followers, but popularity doesn’t equal credibility. Mental health, in particular, is deeply personal and nuanced. What works for one person might not work for another, and blanket advice can do more harm than good.
It’s important to remember that influencers, no matter how confident they appear, are not a substitute for professional guidance. Always verify their credentials and approach their advice with a healthy dose of skepticism.
How to Be a Discerning Consumer
To ensure that what you see is actually what you get, consider these steps:
Research the Source: Look into the person’s background, training, and qualifications. Are they a licensed mental health professional, or are they speaking from personal experience alone?
Evaluate the Advice: Is it grounded in evidence-based practices? Does it make sweeping generalizations, or does it acknowledge the complexity of mental health?
Consult a Professional: Before applying any advice you encounter online, consult with a qualified therapist or counselor who can help you assess its relevance to your unique needs.
Think Critically: Ask yourself whether the advice resonates with your situation or if it’s simply packaged in a way that feels appealing.
The Role of Individualized Care in Mental Health
Mental health is not one-size-fits-all. The strategies that help you thrive will be deeply personal and tailored to your experiences, values, and goals. This is why working with a licensed therapist is so valuable—they can help you navigate the noise and focus on approaches that truly support your growth and well-being.
Social media can be a great tool for raising awareness about mental health, but it’s not a substitute for individualized care. By distinguishing between confidence and competence, and by approaching online advice with discernment, you can make choices that support your mental health journey in a meaningful and effective way. Be mindful of who you trust and remember that professional, personalized support is always the best path forward. Your well-being deserves nothing less.