De-centering is the process of recognizing what we have placed at the core of our lives—and deciding whether it is truly serving us. It’s not always something we consciously choose, yet each of us orbits around a central theme, belief, or pursuit that dictates how we make decisions, measure our worth, and structure our days. Often, this center is something we assume will fill the gap and bring us what we most long for—a relationship, success, financial security, approval, personal growth—but in reality, it can become an invisible force that keeps us trapped in a cycle of striving, waiting, or self-judgment.

When it comes to healing from trauma, many people feel an overwhelming urge to “fix” themselves and get through it. The initial reaction is often to do more—to read every book, attend every workshop, and analyze every moment of their past in an effort to move beyond it. While education and active self-reflection have their place in making sense of what happened, one of the most underrated aspects of healing is the exact opposite: resting, doing less, and slowing down.

Learning new things—especially things we’re not already good at—activates different parts of the brain, strengthens neural pathways, and even promotes the growth of new ones. Yep, neuroplasticity is real, and it means our brains are far more adaptable than we give them credit for.

Not everyone needs ongoing, weekly therapy to feel grounded and supported. In fact, many people go through seasons of life where things are mostly okay—but every now and then, something shifts. Maybe it’s a looming decision. An unexpected life shift. Or maybe you just feel stuck in your head and need a sounding board or an unbiased perspective. This why as-needed or single-session coaching can be the perfect support.

Emotional triggers don’t have to control us. By pausing, noticing, and engaging with curiosity, we can begin to change our relationship with them and practice responding intentionally. The more we practice, the more space we create between the trigger and our response—allowing us to move through emotional waves with more ease and self-compassion.

Words hold a lot of power. They can comfort, inspire, and shape our narratives. But what often matters way more that words, are our actions - things we actually do to give weight to our words. Think about how often people try to convince others (or even themselves) of a truth through words alone. “I love you.” “I care about my health.” “I want to change.” These are powerful statements, but what happens when the actions that follow don’t match? Words can create a story, but actions build the reality.

Splitting is the tendency to see things in extremes—good or bad, right or wrong, lovable or unlovable. It often develops as a response to emotional pain, trauma, or invalidation in early life. When our nervous system is overwhelmed, it can feel safer to categorize things simply rather than hold onto the discomfort of nuance, mixed emotions, and contradictions.

Individuation is the process of integrating all parts of yourself—your strengths and struggles, your conscious choices and unconscious patterns—into a cohesive, authentic identity. Jung believed that true psychological growth isn’t about “fixing” ourselves but about understanding and embracing all aspects of who we are. This means acknowledging both the light and shadow parts of ourselves, rather than rejecting or suppressing what feels inconvenient or uncomfortable. Individuation isn’t about becoming perfect; it’s about becoming whole.

Spiritual bypassing describes the tendency to use spiritual ideas or practices as an escape hatch from difficult emotions and unresolved wounds. Instead of addressing pain, grief, anger, or fear head-on, spiritual bypassing slaps a shiny, mystical band-aid over it and calls it “growth.” On the surface, it seems like healing. But underneath? Those emotions don’t go away—they just go underground, where they can quietly shape our patterns, relationships, and self-perceptions in ways we don’t even realize.

Anger isn’t inherently bad or negative—it’s a natural and necessary emotion. It signals to us that something important is happening, that a boundary has been crossed, that we feel unheard, unseen, or unjustly treated. Anger carries wisdom, but we can only access it if we slow down and get curious rather than react impulsively.

Feeling uncertain doesn’t mean you’re lost; it means you’re growing. Over time, what once felt unbearable starts to feel manageable. The instability of change begins to settle into something new, something different. But that doesn’t happen overnight. It happens in those small, quiet moments of choosing to respond differently, again and again.

The arrival fallacy can be deceptive because, on the surface, it feels like ambition. We’re conditioned to believe that striving for goals will lead us to a better version of ourselves or a better life. And in some ways, striving is important—it gives us direction and purpose. But when our sense of self-worth or happiness is tied exclusively to reaching the next destination, we unintentionally set ourselves up for disappointment.

Whether or not you’ve named it as a goal, psychological flexibility is something that can profoundly improve your quality of life. It’s what allows you to show up fully, live authentically, and move toward a life that feels rich and meaningful, even in the face of uncertainty.

At first glance, helping and enabling can look very similar. Both involve stepping in to support someone you care about. But the outcomes they create couldn’t be more different. While helping empowers a person to grow, learn, and navigate their challenges, enabling often keeps them stuck, unintentionally reinforcing unhealthy patterns or behaviors. The distinction matters because our intentions, while well-meaning, don’t always lead to positive outcomes.

The drive to optimize often comes with the unspoken belief that who we are and how we live is never enough. Each improvement leads to the next goalpost, perpetuating a cycle of striving that leaves little room for rest, reflection, or contentment. Over time, this endless chase can lead to exhaustion, burnout, and a sense of disconnection from our deeper values.

Our phones have become an extension of ourselves. We carry them everywhere, reflexively reaching for them in moments of boredom, awkward silences, or even just out of habit. If we’re not careful, the hours we spend consuming someone else’s highlights can mean missing out on living our own. Here are 30 fun, lighthearted ways to reclaim your time and focus on living rather than consuming.

Therapy provides a dedicated and consistent space for introspection and self-reflection. It’s a place where you can hit pause on the chaos, explore your inner world, and discover the intentions that guide you. Think of it as creating a home base for your mind, a safe space to declutter your thoughts and figure out what truly matters to you.

Confidence and competence are closely related but distinct concepts. Confidence refers to the belief in one’s abilities or the self-assurance to take action, regardless of the actual level of skill or knowledge. It is an internal state that can make a person appear poised and convincing, even when their expertise may be limited. On the other hand, competence is the actual ability, skill, or knowledge to effectively perform a task or understand a subject.

In today’s world, busyness is often worn like a badge of honor. From packed calendars to endless to-do lists, it’s easy to conflate being busy with being productive. But are you truly being productive, or are you stuck in the cycle of busyness? The difference lies in whether your actions align with your values and lead to a fulfilling life or simply perpetuate a reactive and exhausting existence. Intentional productivity can help you live a value-led life and avoid the burnout caused by aimless busyness.

As the year winds down, many of us find ourselves naturally reflecting on what’s passed and wondering about the road ahead. This transition can be bittersweet, marked by both accomplishments and challenges, joy and sorrow.

While we can’t control what life throws our way, we have an incredible power: the ability to choose how we respond and how we show up for ourselves in the midst of challenges.