This year I’ve been doing some things differently. For starters, I didn’t set any goals or intentions. No word of the year.

Feeling stuck, drained, or low-key resentful entering your 30s? It might be time to ghost a few sneaky habits that are holding you back. This no-fluff guide breaks down 13 habits to break up with—for more peace, power, and self-respect.

We tend to think that making the "right" decision should feel good—clear, affirming, maybe even a little empowering. But the truth is, good decisions are often inconvenient. They interrupt our comfort, require effort, and ask us to tolerate discomfort in the service of something more meaningful. Whether it's setting a boundary, committing to therapy, or choosing rest over productivity, the choices that move us forward rarely come wrapped in ease. But that doesn’t mean they’re wrong—it usually means they matter.

We’re not meant to stay the same—but our self-definitions often keep us stuck. In this post, we explore how labels and identities, even the ones we choose, can quietly limit growth, creativity, and connection. If you’ve ever felt trapped by who you used to be, this is your invitation to let yourself evolve.

Success isn’t just about hard work—it’s also about timing, privilege, and straight-up luck. This blog post breaks the myth that you alone can manufacture your dream life. Sometimes, you just got lucky—and that’s the part no one likes to admit.

Feeling burnt out by hustle culture? If you’re an empath, old soul, or intuitive woman, you might be wired for a different kind of success—one rooted in alignment, ease, and soul, not pressure and performance. This post is your permission slip to stop forcing and start flowing.

When it comes to healing from trauma, many people feel an overwhelming urge to “fix” themselves and get through it. The initial reaction is often to do more—to read every book, attend every workshop, and analyze every moment of their past in an effort to move beyond it. While education and active self-reflection have their place in making sense of what happened, one of the most underrated aspects of healing is the exact opposite: resting, doing less, and slowing down.

Feel guilty for choosing yourself? This post unpacks how guilt often disguises as morality, and how to trust your truth anyways.

Each time we turn away from what we’re feeling, we reinforce the belief that certain emotions are dangerous, shameful, or intolerable. That avoidance becomes our nervous system’s go-to strategy, and over time, it makes the inner world feel more hostile than it really is. You start to feel anxious about your anxiety. Sad about your sadness. Disappointed in your disappointment. And then you wonder why you feel stuck.

Therapy isn't about flipping our lives upside down. It's about exploring, getting curious, and creating the conditions where real change might happen — if and when we're ready. It's about understanding our motivations, desires, and our real selves. Change threatens what we know, what we've built, what feels familiar — even if what we know isn't authentic or comfortable. Our adaptations and defenses have been carefully crafted and cemented over a lifetime. They're not flaws. They're ingenious survival strategies. They've kept us safe, functional, and adaptive (even when it doesn't feel that way).

Individuation is the process of integrating all parts of yourself—your strengths and struggles, your conscious choices and unconscious patterns—into a cohesive, authentic identity. Jung believed that true psychological growth isn’t about “fixing” ourselves but about understanding and embracing all aspects of who we are. This means acknowledging both the light and shadow parts of ourselves, rather than rejecting or suppressing what feels inconvenient or uncomfortable. Individuation isn’t about becoming perfect; it’s about becoming whole.

Spiritual bypassing describes the tendency to use spiritual ideas or practices as an escape hatch from difficult emotions and unresolved wounds. Instead of addressing pain, grief, anger, or fear head-on, spiritual bypassing slaps a shiny, mystical band-aid over it and calls it “growth.” On the surface, it seems like healing. But underneath? Those emotions don’t go away—they just go underground, where they can quietly shape our patterns, relationships, and self-perceptions in ways we don’t even realize.

Anger isn’t inherently bad or negative—it’s a natural and necessary emotion. It signals to us that something important is happening, that a boundary has been crossed, that we feel unheard, unseen, or unjustly treated. Anger carries wisdom, but we can only access it if we slow down and get curious rather than react impulsively.

Confidence and competence are closely related but distinct concepts. Confidence refers to the belief in one’s abilities or the self-assurance to take action, regardless of the actual level of skill or knowledge. It is an internal state that can make a person appear poised and convincing, even when their expertise may be limited. On the other hand, competence is the actual ability, skill, or knowledge to effectively perform a task or understand a subject.

In today’s world, busyness is often worn like a badge of honor. From packed calendars to endless to-do lists, it’s easy to conflate being busy with being productive. But are you truly being productive, or are you stuck in the cycle of busyness? The difference lies in whether your actions align with your values and lead to a fulfilling life or simply perpetuate a reactive and exhausting existence. Intentional productivity can help you live a value-led life and avoid the burnout caused by aimless busyness.

Failure. It’s a heavy word, isn’t it? Most of us define it as not achieving the outcome we hoped for or expected. But we don’t stop there. Oh no. We often add an extra layer of meaning: "And that means I’m a failure." Suddenly, it’s not just about the thing that didn’t work out. It’s about you.

As we grow up we inherit a particular set of guidelines and frameworks for life—many of which shape how we view ourselves, others, and the world around us. These frameworks come from those we grew up with, shaped by their own beliefs, experiences, and even the emotional and psychological readiness (or lack thereof) they brought to parenthood. Our sense of self is formed not only through their reflections and observations but also through the biases they inherited from their parents, influenced by historical, cultural, and personal contexts.

Therapy is a powerful tool, but it’s not magic. It’s a space to explore, understand, and practice new perspectives. The real magic happens when you take what you learn and bring it into your life. So, if you’re feeling stuck or wondering why change isn’t happening fast enough, know this: you’re doing it right. Growth takes time, and the small steps you take outside of therapy are the ones that lead to the biggest transformations.

When you think about your daily actions, how often do you find yourself labeling them as “good” or “bad”? Maybe you feel proud of going to the gym and call it “good,” or you regret eating that extra slice of pizza and call it “bad.” This black-and-white thinking is so common, yet it often leaves us feeling stuck, guilty, or even disconnected from the person we want to be. But what if we approached our behaviors differently? Instead of judging them as “good” or “bad,” we could ask ourselves: Is this behavior helpful?

Being important to yourself is not about turning into a selfish, grandiose prick and neglecting or devaluing others—it’s about valuing yourself enough to make space for your own needs. By recognizing your own self-worth, you’re better equipped to bring your best self to everything you do.