Overcoming Imposter Syndrome & self-doubt
Feeling like an imposter while learning a new skill is a common and uncomfortable experience that comes with new beginnings and moving outside of our comfort zone. It’s a sense that you’re faking your way through a new role and constantly being nagged by the self-critical voice that makes you want to hide.
Many of us have found ourselves in those self-doubting moments when we question our abilities and achievements. But no matter how big the insecurity is, you can be bigger than it. You don’t have to let the self-doubt swallow you and stop you from engaging in significant, sometimes scary, life-expanding experiences.
Confidence is Built on Competence
People often say, "I want to be more confident, and if I was more confident, then I would..." But the truth is, confidence isn't the starting point; it's the result. When you’re doing something you’ve never done before, you may not feel very confident. Rightfully so! And the more you pressure yourself into feeling confidence and already showing up as an expert, the harder it becomes to show up open minded and ready to learn. Instead of chasing confidence, focus on building your competence. Confidence is born out of competence. The more you learn, practice, and improve, the more confident you'll become.
Have Your Own Back and Just Show up!
One of the most important steps in overcoming impostor syndrome is simply showing up despite the fear, anxiety, and insecurity. Even when you're feeling unsure or scared, take the leap and put yourself out there. The big part of allowing yourself to show up scared is having your own back. What does that mean? It means that you practice self-compassion and self-kindness, you champion yourself, and be understanding through the ups and downs.
Allow Yourself to Be a Beginner
It's okay to not know everything. In fact, embracing the beginner's mind can be a powerful tool for continuous growth and learning. So don’t expect to know everything right away, or to always be fearless and perfect. Do ask questions, make mistakes, and seek guidance.
Lower the Pressure, Increase the Curiosity
Be interested! Someone who is interested will go so much further than someone who believes they already know everything. Instead of putting immense pressure on yourself to be perfect, approach new challenges with a sense of curiosity. When you're curious, you're more open to learning and exploring.
Think Long-Term
Everyone wants quick results and fast wins, but “overnight” success takes years! Instead of focusing on immediate gratification, think in terms of years and find a ways to enjoy the process, not just the results.
Keep in Mind
Impostor syndrome is a result of expanding your comfort zone. The mere fact that you are experiencing it, indicates that you are moving through a growth period (which is rarely a comfortable experience). Yay for you! Remember - focus on building your competence, let yourself be a beginner, be your own cheerleader, and think long-term!